Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Cool Things My Friends Do: Heal with Horses

Cool Friend: Stef Brok
Cool Thing: Equine Assisted Therapy



How do you begin to summarize the story of a friend you’ve known for over 10 years? Especially when that friend started off as your 8th grade English teacher? Little did I know that when I walked into Stef Brok’s classroom in West Lawn, Pennsylvania that I would be walking out of it with a life mentor. As my friends and I paged through Mrs. Brok’s interactive stories of a Midsummer Night’s Dream, Treasure Island, and Twelve Angry Men, we learned her story as well. In her own words, her résumé lists “bartender, waitress, dental assistant, doctor's receptionist/assistant, carny, hospitality for musical groups, pro-wrestler, racetracker, warehouse worker, ... oh yeah, and teacher, too." Many of us knew her outside of the classroom as the self-proclaimed "tweaker" of our musicals. She was always there as an extra set of eyes to make us the best and brightest we could ever be both on stage and off.

This past spring, Stef retired from 37 years of teaching in the Baltimore City School District and Wilson School District. But of course, she is simply just onto the next adventure. She continues her worldly experience with Herd by a Horse, a non-profit organization in Pennsylvania that offers equine assisted therapy to multiple clienteles.

There is a great deal more to the company that can be found here at www.herdbyahorse.com, but in a nutshell, David Rosenker and his intimate team offer a diverse range of therapy sessions, team building activities, and general assistance by placing individuals or groups in a space with horses. Horses are extremely intuitive creatures, and are used as models or tools through which the individuals can express feelings about themselves or others in their lives. Sometimes the horses are metaphors for obstacles in their lives, sometimes role models for how to better communicate. Each individual may vary.

Here is a bit from Stef about her role in the organization.

Floccadelphia: Where does your attachment to horses stem from?

Stef: When I was young I had to do whatever my big brother Glenn would do.  Isn't that the job of a little sister?  We didn't have a whole lot of money so my dad and mom would rent the "Pepsi Ponies" to come to our house for birthday parties and the kids would get pony rides.    That did it for Glenn.  At the age of 3 or 4, he was hooked.  He went on to showing his own and others' horses, then the race track where he galloped the thoroughbreds (he was a bit too big to be a jockey), then became an agent, then a trainer.  So... anyway, I followed Glenn:  riding, showing, racetracking, etc.    And I just love the animal.  The energy, the intuition, the wholeness that they give.  Horses are my sanity, my therapy, one part of my life that defines me.  They help me to be me.
  Now what I do is trail ride with friends.  We ride all around Berks County and sometimes camp our way around Virginia, New York, Maryland...
    There is a wonderful article in the Oprah Magazine, I think it's the August issue  p. 104.  I don't know the title as I was just give a copy of the article sans title page, but it explains this concept pretty well.

F: Can you give a bit of insight into Equine Therapy?

S: I didn't research where it began, as far as I'm concerned, it began when man developed a relationship with the horse.  And believe me, there are ALL types of relationships.  Perhaps people started paying attention to Monty Roberts, the original horse whisperer.  Perhaps people realized the therapeutic value of the horse when working with troubled kids/adults or handicapped kids/adults. But there are many different types of horse therapy being used at this time.   The certification I'm getting is with the EAGALA program [Equine Assisted Growth and Learning Association].

F: How did you get involved?

S: I got involved when I was tacking up my horse over at Blue Marsh getting ready for a ride.  An acquaintance I had known from being on the SAP team in the 1980's, David Rosenker, had just returned from a trail ride and mentioned he had recently been certified in this EAGALA program.  Having no filter, I immediately stated I would just love to do something like that.   Then we went our separate ways and I figured I wouldn't see or hear from him again.  However, a few months later he called and asked if I'd be interested in working with him as his equine specialist.    This sounded like a great adventure to me, so here I am.

F: Are you volunteering? Full time paid? Contracted?

S: I actually get paid for this.  Not great amounts, but the insight into this world is remarkable and well worth the time and effort.  For instance, on Saturday we are taking 3 of my horses up to Hamlin, PA where there is a "home" for young men ages 18 - 26.  It is a 20-bed facility for those who are not yet ready to deal with society after they are released from places like Caron Foundation.  Perhaps they are still not quite ready to be on their own after dealing with drug and alcohol issues, etc.  We will do two 2-hour sessions with these kids.  

F: Without compromising privacy of the patients, what is some of the most remarkable work you have seen done with these horses in terms of therapy?

S: Incredible, unbelievable stuff.  For instance, we were working with a group of 5 women who had experienced trauma in their lives (rape, abuse, etc.).  One woman was assigned the task of building what represented an obstacle to her recovery.  Using all the 'props' we had strewn around the arena, build what represented her greatest obstacle to getting beyond her fears, etc.  She took EVERYTHING we had: barrels, scarves, poles, traffic cones, umbrellas, toy beanie babies, balls, bags, EVERYTHING and created a huge wall.  Around this wall she placed the lassos/ropes, as if to hold it all together.  Sharp objects jutting out…it was nasty and could not be penetrated.  Impossible to get through.  Upon questioning, this represented her mother.   As she was explaining all this to us and describing what and why, Frankie, the one horse she had previously bonded with, went over to check it out and got his foot caught in the lariat that was surrounding this mass and holding it all together.  He shied away and in doing so, pulled the entire monstrosity to pieces, showing this woman that it CAN be broken down. So many metaphors in this situation.  It was astounding.   And this was just one instance.  Stuff like this happens a lot. I feel these incredible animals have so much to offer to us, and they do so willingly.  People should be more like them.  I think the world would be a much better place.

I have had the pleasure of riding Frankie, one of Stef’s horses. He is so named because he has bright blue eyes like Frank Sinatra, who is also a bit of a hero of mine. To see Stef and her husband Phil interact with these animals is incredible. This astounding aspect of her life something that I will always admire, but yet barely scratches the surface of the incredible woman she is. In our middle school years, she helped mold us into the individuals we are today by praising our achievements and supporting our endeavors will beyond her classroom.


I sit writing this overlooking the sea and the southern coast of France on the cruise ship I have learned to call home. I got this job through my extracurricular activities, many of which were obtained because of her recommendations at a young age. I am blessed and extremely fortunate to have such a job, but I can only hope that my life will have some shrivel of comparison to Stef’s. She is not just a teacher. She is a student of the world.

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